Should i be mad or what?(read for futher details)?

it sounds like both you and your mom have unresolved emotional issues from the past and now moms acting kind of like shes a little kid and spending the money on herself she could not years ago when you were little . you on the other hand are 19 now and missed out on the birthday gifts you craved and for which al kids crave and now you feel uncared for and cheated and like that little girl of a few years back who needed mommy to lavish her with lots of fun presents. you are an adult now and mom is not a young mommy anymore so in a sense both of you are trying to recreate a fantasy of how you all wish it had been and i see resentment on both sides and acting out on moms part alittle too. of course you have a right to your feelings and unmet needs from childhood, events missed , hurt terribly as they most likely do to your mother as well who may have felt somewhat resentful when she had to sacrifice years ago and now feels free to reward herself. its not that she does not love you and now you are older i bet you truly know this but you need to sit down with her alone, in private honey, and express yourself and your feelings, your need to have a birthday of your choosing , to her in a mature adult manner not as you did about the six flags tickets ok? you need to tell her it felt hurtful and why it did and then tell her you do understand why she might wanna kind of spend on herself more now but you are her daughter and you feel slighted when she does not want to plan a birthday of your own choosing . i would hope she will see it has hurt you and and also that you are a big girl now and are trying to see her neds and understand how the past has effected her as well. its certainly worth the effort . if she remains unreasonable and not open after this i would just tell her that hurts you alot and be firm about letting her know its not ok to disrespect you and ignore your feelings. act like a women now and meeet her on equal ground . get your issues out and talk . let me know how it goes please! i bet it will be ok. but either way its not wrong for you to feel as you do i would too, its just that you need to take responsibility to be open and honest with her now about how this makes you feel.